Day 54: Self-Love September

“If only our bodies would marry the beauty growing inside them, it wouldn’t be so exhausting trying to love ourselves.” – Christopher Poindexter Self love. Sometimes, I have to remind myself to not be so hard on me. I get so wrapped up in where I’m supposed to be in life, in my career, in…

Day 50: Fool’s Gold

When Travis Linton, 26, told me he was in a relationship, I couldn’t believe it. Not because he’s a horrible person of any kind, but because when you’re good friends with someone and have learned their traits, few things tend to surprise you. Until this. His new love venture impacted me much more than I…

Day 47: Love is…

“Love and peace are not just words, they are a way of life. And in an honest living, love will always conquer.” – Ahmad Ardalan Love is patient. Love is kind. Love does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud, it is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easy angered.…

Day 42: 20something & Selfishly In Love

“The sad thing is most people have to check with someone before they do the things that make them happy. We’re all passing through; the least we can do is be happy, and the only way to do that is by being selfish.” – Gene Simmons Cuban Activist Jose Marti, once said that a selfish…

Day 39/Day 40: The Great Love Debate

The Conference Call. I tried something a little different this time around. Because I’ve had such detailed one-on-one conversations with both men and women from various age groups on the topic of love, I was curious to see what it would be like to conduct a group interview. I wanted to see in real time…

Day 38: Happily Single

Singing to myself: “This time next year I’ll be livin’ so good, Won’t remember your name, I swear. Livin’ so good, livin’ so good, livin’ so good. This time next year I’ll be livin’ so good, Won’t remember no pain, I swear…” SZA wrote Ctrl about me. I’m convinced. I say that only half jokingly because…

Day 37: The Empty Cup

Poetry heals. Words have become my medicine.    Did you hope I wouldn’t notice You gave me empty words to drink? Well my tongue’s tasted more lies, Than you would ever dare to think, You’re not the only one, With truth like poison in their veins, Whose ribs are shaped like cages, Holding tightly to the…

Day 36: Mastery of Love

Thank you auntie Ro. “Happiness can only come from inside of you and is the result of your love. When you are aware that no one else can make you happy, and that happiness is the result of your love, this becomes the greatest mastery of the Toltec: The Mastery of Love.” – don Miguel…

Day 34: Don’t Look Back

“It takes huge effort to free yourself from memory.” – Paulo Coelho The past is an awful place to get stuck in. It’s even more toxic when you’re stuck there with someone you love. It’s like you both want to move forward and you’d like to do it collectively, however, the only memories that seem…

Day 33: We Come First

I sat with a good friend of mine, Justin Brantley, a little while ago and we talked about love. We also talked about his truth – the fact that at 23 years old, he’s never actually been in love. In fact, because of this he admitted to being hesitant about participating in this project. He…